A Reprise To Seduction

When people think about seduction, they think about wooing their women in the bedroom and having them fall for their every move. Sure, there are many things that come to mind when talking about seduction, but overall seduction lies in your preparation and confidence. When looking at preparation, we look at all of the things you can control -- such as location, what you have planned for the evening, what you say to her, and what do with her. When we look at confidence, we look at your attitude towards being with her, and your actions when you are with her in the bedroom.

I. Your Plans
Like most men, you probably are not into planning what you are going to do or where you are going to do it. But if you want to seduce your partner, planning the evening is mandatory. One thing you MUST NOT do is make her know what you did to get this day off and running. Even though it may have taken you a few hours to plan, having you complain about how much time you have spent on how long it took to set things up will ruin the day. Don’t worry because your romantic gestures will get you hours and hours of fun afterwards!

Making Your Plans
If you are thinking of heading straight for the bedroom, planning to seduce her from there, you are going to fail miserably. Your seduction should always start with something basic then move forward to something unique.

Something Basic
If you wish to do something basic you can either go out for a candle lit dinner, a moonlit walk, or event talk to her over coffee. During your pre-seduction adventure you should be able to romance her with your words.

Something Sensual & Unique
After your pre-seduction adventure you will want to have something sensual planned for desert. Most likely your sensual adventure will start and end at your place, but it can also involve a cabin, a beach house, or a hotel room. This sensual romance is the beginning of foreplay, which is the start of the fun. Have some desert ready at your destination and include two to three events to perform where you can concentrate on her with your actions. Things you can have planned include sharing deserts, spending time in front of a fireplace, a sensual massage, some time in the hot tub, or anything that includes the five senses.

II. Location
Where ever you end up, you will have to take the time to look at the atmosphere. Here are some helpful tips to increase your seduction success.

Setting and Atmosphere
The decor of your location is the first thing that you have to look at. Some things that will add romance, while others will kill it. First, it is also important to look at cleanliness. Remember it is not your friends that are coming over, it is your partner. If your home smells like left over pizza and beer, you can kiss your night of seduction goodbye. Speaking of the smell of your house, purchasing some incense will be one of the best investments for your home. Not only will it make your home smell better, but the scent of incense can have some powerful effects on your partner.

Lighting is the best way to set the mood when you get her home. If you already have lamps in your home, let's hope that you can dim them. If you can't dim your lights don't worry, purchase some candles and have fun under candlelight.

Finally, you should look at some soft music to play in the background. Sensual music includes jazz, R & B, or classical. Have the music soft enough so you can hardly notice it is on, but loud enough so that it is not overbearing and doesn’t interrupt your night.

III. Your Words
The words that you use, and how you use them, can make or break your date. Always remember compliments go a long way when it comes to sex. Since many females are self-conscious about their body and their looks, complimenting them on things that they are insecure about will make them feel more confident and comfortable around you. Don’t try too hard with compliments though, because your words won’t seem sincere. Stick to two or three compliments before sex, during sex, and after sex.
When it comes to her sense of self you can compliment:

- Her attitude
- How she looks
- Her clothes
- How she moves
- Her touch
- How she makes you feel
- Her perfume

Here are some body parts you can compliment:

- Her eyes
- Her hands
- Her face
- Her skin
- Her lips
- Her butt
- Her back
- Her stomach
- Her breasts
- Her legs

IV. Foreplay
Though many men don’t enjoy foreplay, it is very important for the female. Women enjoy foreplay because it has you concentrating on her entire body instead of just the genitals. When it comes to foreplay, make sure you touch, lick, and kiss her entire body. As you do this, watch how she reacts to where you touch her and the different ways that you touch her. Foreplay should involve all five senses and look at enhancing them. The best advice when it comes to foreplay, is using a gentle touch and going as slow as possible. And so you know, foreplay should last between 15 minutes to 2 hours.

V. Intercourse
This is the FUN, and also the part that most of you men are looking forward to! Most men see intercourse as penetration, but the best sex mixes both intercourse and foreplay. Furthermore, you should switch positions only when necessary. At most you will probably go through five or six different positions so try mixing it up by incorporating all of the basic positions (woman on top, man on top, spooning, standing, sitting, and rear entry) and spending about five minutes in each position.

VI. After play
Afterplay is what a couple does after sex, and no, falling asleep is not afterplay. This includes things such as kissing, cuddling, holding each other, and talking. During this time, all people, especially women, are very vulnerable because of the intimacy involved in sex. The best thing you can do is make sure you spend five to ten minutes with each other, before you fall asleep.

VII. More Seduction Techniques
Some final pointers when looking at seduction are:

Your Mindset
Your attitude and the way you think when it comes to seduction will do wonders for how your partner views the night. If you are confident with all of your actions and what you do it will show when you are with her. Remember that confidence comes from planning and confidence.

Technique
Make sure you take your time and utilize all of the techniques outlined here. By incorporating all of these techniques into your evenings of seduction, not only will you become a master seducer, but your partner will be receptive to your suggestions with regards to sex. And of course, this will lead to even more adventurous nights together.

Speed and Tempo
Though men love speeding sex up, you should be going as slow as possible when it comes to foreplay and seduction. Although this is true, the tempo and speed of sex should always be changing. Try switching your tempo by speeding up and slowing down to tease her and make her want more. Another benefit of slowing down is that it allows you to last longer and increase your stamina in the bedroom. The trick is whenever you feel like you are about to orgasm, slow down briefly or stop penetrating completely while you use your hand and mouth on her.