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SEX & SENSUALITY

Erotic Power Play - Spanking

An Erotic Power Play is a great way to spice up your sex life. It includes playing out roles and fantasies, with the whole point being to fool around in a fun and playful way. Remember, erotic play is not about hurting or putting someone in a position they do not want to be in, so talking-before-doing works really well for many couples. Then again, a little flip and tap in the bedroom may pleasantly surprise your partner, when in doubt converse in a non-horizontal, clothes wearing, situation about what turns both you and her on. Not sure where to start? Why not go back in time with a little bad boy/girl spanking, it's going to feel a lot better now then it did back then, guaranteed!

The whole point of any erotic play is to get you and your partner doing things you may not think to be sexual, until you've looked at them from a different perspective. To make spanking, in particular, enjoyable, a few simple things should be realized:

Who's been naughty?
Obviously the person doing the spanking is in the dominating position while the person on the receiving end is the passive participant, or the person being dominated.

The spanker enjoys the following advantages from the situation:

Comfort: The spanker decides what position the act will take place in, standing, sitting, lying down, and is usually comfortable through out the whole act of play. Whether the love touch is a swing and a sting, or a tap, the spanker should have a free range of motion to engage in play.

Strength: The spanker decides how hard and with what frequency the action takes place in. How naughty has he/she been? Feel free to talk dirty to your partner and, at the same time, listen to how they are doing.

Full access to the bottom to be spanked: The arrangement on the spanker and the spankee is one designed to fully expose the naughty spankee's bottom. The position of the spanker is to put that bottom at a suitable angle and height to commence with the act. Therefore, the spanker is able completely view, pinch, stroke, and spank it. Enjoy!

Safety: Since there are obvious risks involve, also know as hurting your partner, it is important to listen and ask how your partner is doing, this can be done without killing the mood by whispering into the ear, "How is it for you?" Do note that the bottom of the spankee may redden as blood starts to flow to the impacted area. Know how far your partner is willing to go to avoid hurting them during something that's supposed to be fun and playful.

Control: The spanker has the upper hand, so to speak, and is capable of controlling the spankee. The spanker can move the spankee around, reposition them, or restrain them.

The spankee enjoys the following effect from the situation: Relative comfort: With the exception of their glutes, it is important for the spankee to feel comfortable and relaxed, so they can focus on the sensation of the play.

Presentation of the spankee's bottom: Not only is the bottom exposed and highlighted but the spankee feels they are freely "sticking it out" and presenting it for its punishment. The spankee knows their bottom cannot evade or escape the swats. Leading to the next point, anticipation.

Anticipation: Bending over signals the beginning of the play and the anticipation of being spanked grows. Bending over also rubs in the fact that they are the one's who've been naughty and it's time to meet the erotic consequences.

Increased sensation: If the spankee is positioned at the proper angle then the glutes will tend to be spanked harder and more completely on the sensitive flesh.

Exposure: The bottom may be fully exposed. The proper position looks like this, the bottom is fully exposed, the cheeks are presented and split, with their undersides turned up. In the case of men, the anus and back of the scrotum show, with women (who are even more exposed) their anus and vulvas are fully visible.

Safety: If the trust is there the play can occur without harm or humiliation to either individual. It is important for the spankee to vocalize if the play is getting out of hand, or if the position they are in is painful.

Positions

Over the lap
Spanker sits, with good posture, in an armless chair, knees together. The person being spanked lies face down across the spanker's lap, their head to the left and feet to the right. Position the spankee far enough over the lap so that their butt is located over the spanker's right thigh.

The spankee's head and shoulders should be angled down and their knees tucked down, out of the way, so that their bottom is well turned up. A palm pressed against the back of the head and swats to the thighs are helpful in positioning the spankee.

Knees should be at least six inches apart and the lower back should be "arched" or dipped to further turn up their rear. For a woman, this will result in her vulva being fully exposed and presented. Depending on size, toes will either be resting against the floor or hoisted off a few inches. The full weight of the spankee should be resting on the lap.

Hands can either be on the floor or grasping the legs of the chair. If the right hand flies back during spanking, it should be pinned to the lower back by the spanker's left hand.

Prior to starting to spank, the spanker should firmly grasp the spankee's waist above the right hip with the left hand to prevent squirming off the lap. Then the left elbow should be planted between the shoulder blades to keep the head and shoulders from bobbing up.

Go to it!

Over the knee
Similar to over-the-lap except the spankee is bent over the left knee with their legs restrained by the spanker's right leg.

Hands on ankles
This classic school-style paddling position has the spankee (student) standing well clear of obstacles with feet shoulder width apart, knees straight. With the back straight the student must bend over and grasp their ankles with both hands. The spanker may want to observe the student's hands throughout the paddling to ensure they do not leave the ankles and earn extra swats.

The spanker stands facing the left side of the student. They should stand far enough away so the paddle barely overlaps past the right cheek. They should adjust fore and aft to ensure that both cheeks are struck at the same time. This position spreads the cheeks and exposes the rectum and genitals more than any other position.

This is a great fantasy position but really works best if the spankee is flexible.

Inflexible people can't reach their ankles without bending their knees. Men run the risk of getting their testicles whacked. Non-fleshy butts get pulled tightly across the pelvic bones and don't provide enough padding when a heavy paddle is used.

Hands on knees
This is another version of Hands on ankles that may be more effective, as it is easier to position.

The feet should be shoulder width apart, torso bent and hands placed on the knees. A technique that tends to arch the back correctly is to require the spankee to look forward at a spot high on the wall. That way, they are required to pull their head up and arch their back.

Depending on the person, this position can be more visually appealing because the back can be arched a bit which perks up the bottom. In fact, the further up the legs the hands are placed, the more the spankee can arch their back and stick out their rump.

Over the desk on tiptoes
This is a comfortable, school-like position.

The student must bend over a desk with their chest pressed to the desk. Hands and arms should be placed on the desk over their head to further arch the back. To elevate their bottoms to be spanked, they must raise up on to their toes. Penalty swats can be awarded for every incidence of a heal touching the floor (hint: watch after the "last" swat before the student is told they may relax).

Over a barstool or horse.
This is probably the best position for paddling because the bottom is presented in a plump and relaxed manner. The person to be punished must lay their full weight across the stool, their feet hanging and hands grasping the legs of the stool at a level such that there is a little support for their upper body.

Laying on bed
A comfortable position.

The spankee lies face-down on a bed with the face pressed into the mattress while their hips and bottom are elevated on pillows. Use three or four pillows to achieve the proper elevation.

Kneeling in chair.
Present the butt in the most flattering light with this position.

The spankee must kneel in the seat of a padded chair, facing the back, with thighs vertical and upper body forward over the back of the chair.

The back of the chair prevents him or her from bending so far as to preclude a good back arch and kneeling with the calves at right angles to the thighs seems to allow the buttocks to bulge fully.

Enjoy and don't forget, all may enjoy giving and receiving. Don't be selfish and only engager in this play if you can be the spanker. She'll get off on the power of authority and dominance. Try it, you may like it.