Often, in long term relationships, the get up and go, got
up and left. The purpose of this tip is to re-ignite the romance
candle. To do this, take
SEX out of the picture and focus
on intimacy building. The tip will help foster the feelings
of connection between the two of you. The assignment takes
somewhere between 10-30 minutes to complete and has the potential
of making your partner aware of how much you care about her.
This is one the most important ingredients for long term satisfaction.
Love notes
Purpose: Bring romance back into your relationship
Supplies: One piece of regular size paper, a pen,
scissors (optional)
Instructions: Cut the piece of paper into seven strips.
On each strip of paper, write one of the following:
• write about some quality you find especially endearing
about your partner (the way she lisps, her full red lips,
how she answers the telephone) and most importantly how this
makes you feel (It makes me smile, I want to hug you, it reminds
me of our first date...)
• write about something that she does that overtly shows
she takes time out of her day to think of you (packs your
lunch, fixes the toilet when it breaks, takes you out to your
favorite dinners) and most importantly.... how it makes
you feel when she does this (I feel loved, nurtured, cared
for, special, smiles..)
•
write down some special memory that the two of you had together...
remember when we got caught kissing on the couch by our 3 year old
daughter and we got all red faced because we did not know how to
respond...remember second date when I got so nervous that I spilt red
wine all over my pants....remember that party that we threw last year and
it went so well, that was one of my happiest moments with you, remember
how much fun we had planning for our wedding night
nt face="Verdana" size="2">• just a simple note that
says that you were thinking of her
• a note telling her how pretty she looks today, and
describe her
• a note which sums up why you fell in love with her
(7 sentences)
• a note telling her how much you can not wait until
the two of you
see each other in the near future
•ask her out on a date. This date could be one of the
following: a home cooked meal - made by you!, a picnic, going
to the movies (something romantic - like a 'woman's movie),
roller blading, biking, tennis, swimming, museums, a special
event, a long stroll, whatever the two of you did on your
first date, dancing, opera etc...
Feel free to write more love notes. There is no such thing
as going overboard. Who wouldn't like a whole slew of 'love
notes' to be found when one is not expecting any.
Each day, take one strip and put it somewhere that you are
sure she will find it. This might be her underwear draw, the
refrigerator, her briefcase, her lunch box etc. Finally, on
the last day, take your last note, the one asking her out
on a date, and place it in the 'usual' place. Then wait for
her response.
***some of the following variations have also worked well:
changing the locations of the love notes, the number of hours,
or days in between them. Some days, you may want to place
three notes, and other days only one. You may want to want
to ask her to make a choice between one of the following two
dates. Her response must be demonstrated by either her wearing
the new pair of earings you bought her, or the black sexy
bra..... or maybe based on what she brings for lunch, or
what side of the bed she rolls out of... get creative.
Have fun!
