Girl Next Door - Q&A

Dear Vicki,
I have a question for you. A few months ago I was with a friend of 4 years and we ended up having sex. Afterwards, we had a talk and she said that sex shouldn't affect our friendship. This was fine with me, but later on she started to date someone, and we were still fooling around. The thing is while she was dating this guy, she didn't want me to kiss her on the lips. When she stopped dating this guy, we would have sex again. I am still questioning what our relationship is. I want to be with her and have these feelings for her.

Kenny

Kenny,

It seems that you are now what we call a fuck friend. A friend that when someone is horny, is there for a quick fuck. As for your relationship, it seems that she is not interested in a long term relationship from you because she is still prospecting other guys. When something happens and you do sleep with a friend who you have know for many years, your relationship does change. If the friendship doesn't turn into a relationship, then you must abide by certain rules if you keep sleeping with each other:

1. No feelings can be attached.
2. Neither of you can be jealous about new relationships
3. Both of you are fine with the above
4. You use protection when having sex

The problem with your situation is that you are starting to attach feelings with the situation. So there are two solutions: Turn off your emotions and keep having sex or stop having sex with her.

Dear Vicki,

I am in my twenties and my problem is that I am obese. It has been a while since I have been on a date and too long since I have had sex. I have trouble talking with girls and meeting them. I seriously need some help.


Johnny


Johnny,

What you have to do is start meeting new people and start going to different functions. There are singles clubs and singles parties held in each city. Set yourself up for the best situation out there. Realize that there are single females out there that are also looking for a companion. What most men don't realize is that they are looking for females only in clubs. Try coffee shops, restaurants, or the local bookstore. Try to date as many people as possible, since you will not find the right person without playing the field.

As for talking with women, there is one word that always works: "Hi". Try saying this to any female out there and you should get a response. Next are the conversation skills. The trick here is to have a conversation with them and seem like you are not picking them up. Try talking to the girl like it is your sister. Once you master this, then you just have to close the sale. Try this line: "You know it was nice talking to you. You seem like a great person. I was wondering if you want to go for coffee sometime." Yes it seems so simple but men make it so difficult.

Dear Vicki,

Alright, I feel embarrassed to say this, but it I don't know how to kiss. The last time I kissed a girl, it seemed like she gave me this look like saying what the hell are you doing? I felt so embarrassed. Please help.
Brad

Brad,

Kissing is an art. Done right we will melt in your hands. Done wrong you can turn us off. When kissing there are things you must remember:

1. Tongue is not good on a first date unless you have her naked in your bed
2. When using your tongue, darting in and out is bad unless you are performing oral sex
3. Try not to drool because lots of saliva is bad.
4. Use soft gentle pressure with your lips around her lips. Try gently squeezing her bottom lip between both of your lips.
4. Brush your lips gently across hers or even trace your lips around her top and bottom lip
5. Now squeeze her top lip between both your lips.
6. Kiss her lips gently one more time.

Try to end it after this and she will desire you more. Call it a night and then call her the next day. She has probably told her girlfriends that your kisses are adorable.
Advanced techniques include a nibble on the bottom lip, sucking on the bottom lip, and of course the French Kiss. But we will leave that for another day.