How familiar are you with your partner's body? Do you understand her powerful erogenous zone? Are the terms clitoris, labia and vagina a mystery to you? If you know nothing else about her sexuality, you should make yourself aware and understand the workings of her body. Realize that in many ways this center of pleasure resembles the
penis, that it grows erect and sensitive under stimulation and its nerves are the ones controlling and are responsible for her orgasms. The clitoris is over two hundred times more sensitive than the
penis can imagine that? Your partner's clitoris may be larger or smaller than that of another woman, it may (or may not) be totally concealed by a "hood" and the shaft of the clitoris may be the major source of her pleasure versus the very tip. Most of all realize this, like any other feature of a woman; one set of genitalia is unlike any other. Each woman has individual reactions to clitoral stimulations of various types. What turns one woman on may be ineffective for the next; in fact, there may be some parts that she may want you to avoid. It is important to talk to your partner about what pleasures her and what pleasures you. Learning about her reactions to various stimuli by using your fingers, tongue, lips and power of communication will enhance both of your experiences. Try it tonight.
Do you always perform oral sex on her (termed cunnilingus) by approaching your partner from the front? If so, you may denying both of you the added pleasure that this act can give when done in a variety of ways. Remember, when sex and love making becomes routine, people get bored. Spice things up by getting out of your routine be trying the following methods of orally pleasuring your partner. Here are some examples that may help to heat things up!
When she is naked, and her hands, lips and trembling body tell you she is ready to be loved, turn her over on her stomach, as if you were preparing to enter her from behind and above. Make sure she is comfortable as you gently spread her thighs wide, move up and straddle her, with your head facing her feet and your hardened erection pressed against her naked back. Slip one hand around her hips and under her pubic bone and urge her to lift her hips slightly as you bend down and seek her body with your mouth. This position allows you not only to suck and lick her but also literally begs you to do the same to the buttocks pressing against your face and the sexually sensitive anus that lies between them. If she showers regularly this area will be as clean as any other part of her body; so don't hesitate to explore it. It will add even more to the tremendous pleasure she is already experiencing!
This classic position for simultaneous head, termed the '69', often has the man placed over his partner, leaning down to lick her vagina while she lifts her head to take in his penis. Tonight try reversing the position and you may discover she is really eager to play. As you lie beneath her with your head lifted between her parted thighs and your tongue moving through her body, the sheer comfort of this position is going to make it far more enjoyable for her to lean down and cover you with her mouth.
Here is an unusual method of cunnilingus that many women prefer above all others. It is best done while she sits comfortably in a chair, her legs flung wide, and you kneeling between them with your face on the same level of as her vagina. Lift her legs and place them over your shoulders. Slip your hands, with the palms up, under her naked buttocks and lift until her vagina is against your mouth. Squeeze and knead her buttocks to entice her to swivel her hips. The sheer movement of you hands on her buttocks will thus cause her labia and other parts to grind together making the experience even more enjoyable. Use your tongue to part her outer lips and lick her as her hips begin, or continue, to move, then stiffen your tongue, extend it as deep as possible into her vagina, curl it up and hold it here. Let the undulations of her hips move that sensitive flesh against your tongue. You can help and encourage these undulations with your hands, if you so desire, but you are going to find she needs very little encouragement.
Anilingus, the use of the tongue on the anus, is so powerful that it alone may cause many women and men to experience orgasm. Why not use is as foreplay and make her orgasm more intense than she could ever imagine? Just be sure she has a shower and washes up good beforehand. How do you do it? Kneel behind her and spread her soft naked buttocks with your hands, press your lips to the cleft and touch her anus teasingly with the tip of your tongue. Move it in swift circles, flick it up and down, then stiffen it and slowly and gently try to probe it into the anus. This may be difficult at first, take your time and let her relax, her resistance will lessen and your tongue will feel literally drawn into the tight circle of flesh. You should always remember that the anus is a self-cleaning apparatus, free of fecal matter, except immediately after defecation, and you should approach it as you would any other part of her body. If you're both still unsure but want to explore this position, try giving oral anal sex in the shower, the warm water will relax you both and your minds will set at ease as to any question of hygiene. Set aside your inhibitions and the stereotypes that society has placed on this part of the body, it may unlock the door to forbidden pleasure.
Try this comfortable oral sex position. Let your partner recline on a sofa as you begin making out. Wait until she is eagar to move things along before slipping her panties down to her ankles. Lift her leg, that is closest to the back of the sofa, up onto the top of the sofa back. Her knee should be bent while her lower leg rests comfortable among the upper edge of the couch. Her parted legs will make it obvious where you want to be and why. Your position will be dictated by the size and shape of the sofa, so spice thing up by moving around the house. You may want to lie at the foot of her body while you dive in to pleasure her; or you may want to kneel beside the sofa and place your head between the front of her thighs with her hand clutching your erection. In either case you're going to find she's going to want to get a "handle on" the situation and will soon be attempting to draw you up and over her body on the sofa.
Oral sex is fun, exciting and pleasurable. It may be done in places and circumstances where intercourse is not possible, if you're both the thrill seeking type. Giving head is a way of telling your partner she's precious and that you're interested her pleasure and sexual satisfaction. It's a win-win situation, where the phrase the more you give the more you get rings true!
