Every woman in the world raises her expectations when it comes to romance on Valentine’s Day. So how can men live up to the rising hopes of women year in and year out? Do you really have to spend a fortune on a cheesy gift to keep her happy on the most romantic day of the year? The solution to these issues is simple, however, it does require some originality on your part along with a bit of effort. In the end, your success will depend on how unequivocally and unpredictably romantic you can be. This is not the year to make a last minute shopping effort for chocolates or perfume at the local drug store. She deserves more and will reward you better in the end if you allow yourself to explore more original, unpredictably romantic gifts for Valentine’s Day.
Do you really want to avoid disappointing that special lady in your life this February 14th? The key is to be unique, creative, original and unpredictable when it comes to planning a special event and purchasing a one-in-a-million gift. Every woman is different, and has unique interests and expectations. The key to pleasing her is getting to know what makes her truly happy. Does she melt for grand, romantic gestures or does she cherish small meaningful moments and surprises? In order to figure her out, you will have to observe her closely and take precise mental notes. It is not cool to ask her straight out "What do you really want for Valentine’s Day?" – that is a little too predictable and lame. It is, however, good to ask her more general questions about her hopes and desires and to observe her very closely when it comes "touchy feely" examples. For example, does she laugh at the people who get engaged at the baseball game, or does she cry for happiness and cheer with sheer joy? Does a serenading guitarist on the street corner embarrass her, or does she stop to appreciate the music and the moment? The more experiences that you have with her, the better idea of her hopes, desires and expectations you will have.
When it comes to planning a special event or shopping for the perfect gift, you must also consider what message you are comfortable sending her. If you have been in a long-term relationship and are building towards marriage and a life together – your gift should communicate your commitment on some level. However, if you have been sharing a steamy sexual affair for the past few months, your gift can have a different meaning altogether. Remember that the importance and message of your gift is not solely attached to monetary value.
Confused by conflicting messages sent to you by your partner? Already frustrated by the impending decisions you will have to make this Valentine’s Day? Relax – what follows is a list of ideas that you cannot go wrong with. The ideas are split into three groups: the first is a to-do list of great events and activities on Valentine’s Day, the second is a list of gifts for any lady in your life, and the final list includes presents for the "perfect" lady that you want to give the world to (but can’t actually afford it!) All you have to do is pick the perfect match of events and gifts for your lady and put the plan into action.
Sharing a romantic activity or event with your lady this Valentine’s Day is of the utmost importance. You can go to a movie any night of the year, so scratch that option off your list altogether. This year, you should surprise your special lady with concert tickets, or a last minute trip or adventure. You will have to plan ahead for the concert and be willing to be a bit flexible – here’s a hint though – it’s always okay when Valentine’s Day comes early (within reason, i.e. February), but it’s never okay if it comes later than the actual day. In terms of a trip or adventure to go on – why not get out of the city? Depending on your locale, you might take off for a night in a private ski chalet and a day of skiing in the mountains. Or you could rent a two-person kayak and explore the closest lake or river? Don’t forget to take a picnic! Many women also love doing things like horseback riding – why not go for a long trail ride through the countryside? If you really want to blow her mind and it’s a feasible option… consider taking her on a hot air balloon ride! Generally, anything you plan that she will remember and talk about for the rest of the year (and maybe her whole life!) is a great event or activity to plan for this Valentine’s Day. If you just can’t manage to get away, try to make a mini-getaway in the city. Cook her a gourmet meal and invite a masseuse over for personal massages… or rent a hotel room with a personal hot tub. Consider the event a gift to yourself as well, and try to pick something that appeals to both of you.
When it comes to shopping for a great gift for your special lady friend, avoid the most obvious temptations: chocolate, perfume, flowers. To be perfectly honest – these are tired gifts, and most women are tired of receiving them! If you are at all creative – why not make something for her? Women love artwork, photos and poetry! It sounds quite cheesy, until you see the response you get! If art is just not your thing, plan to give her something personal and meaningful. For example, a first edition copy of her favorite book, a mixed cd of her favorite love songs, or a framed photo of the two of you together. If you are feeling more risqué – visit your locale love shop and buy her some fancy new panties or lingerie. Make sure to match your pick with her taste and comfort level – and don’t be embarrassed to ask the sexy sales lady for assistance, she likely knows more on the subject of lingerie than you!
For your "one and only" Valentine’s Day sweetheart, you will probably want to kick it up a notch. If this woman is the love of your life and knows it, she will expect something meaningful and likely, something expensive. If she lives far away from her family or her best friend, you might plan a secret visit from one of them, or for her to go visit them. Alternately, you might tell her you are taking a week off to go visit your family, then take a detour to an island destination with a beach! Most women love jewelry, and this is definitely on the list of "special" gift options, but it is also somewhat predictable. In order to deliver your gift in a more memorable and romantic way, you might attach to the collar of a puppy, slip into under her pillow at the end of a romantic evening, or have the waiter deliver it to your table in the middle of a heart-shaped chocolate soufflé. Use your imagination here, there are plenty of ways to surprise her if you just put your mind to it. Some other ideas: consider incorporating rose petals into the evening – cover the bed with them, or make her follow a trail of them to a limo and then to a private sailboat for the evening. Also, have champagne ready to get to night started, or to make a special moment of the evening that much more intimate and memorable.
Follow these tips, incorporate some of these original ideas, and you will become an unequivocal romantic this Valentine’s Day. What will the result be? Praise, delight, and sincere gratitude from the woman in your life, and hopefully other more intimate (and obvious!) Valentine’s Day rewards that were left off of our "to-do" list. Enjoy!
