Dear Vicki,
I dated Kelly for about three years and about a month and a half after the break up, we started to just
have sex. This is still going on, but I heard from a friend of a friend that she was
dating someone else. I know I still want to be with her but I don't know how I can get back with her.
Signed,
Albert
Dear Albert,
I don't think that she is interested in anything but sex with you. She was just keeping you on the side to keep herself satisfied while she was looking for someone else. When people break up and just get together for a night of sex, there is always one person that thinks that they are still going to get back together or else why would they be having their fling. While this one person is wondering how they are going to get back together, the other person is looking for someone else. I say forget about her and try to find someone else.
Dear Vicki,
I have been dating the same girl over the last four years and I think she is the one. The problem is that I have only dated her and I think I want to date and experience my life first before I settle down. I just want to make sure that she is the one and only. Am I crazy for thinking that?
Signed,
Rob
Dear Rob,
You are definitely not crazy for thinking that. I am sure that she is thinking the same thing. The only thing that you can do is take a break and date other people. If she feels the same way, take a year away from each other, still stay friends, and date other people. From here you can see where it will lead to. Relationships that are developed now a days fall into a pitfall where one person settles for the other or they are with that person because they are scared of being alone. It's a sad fact but perhaps that is why there is such a high divorce rate in America. If she is the one, then you will know at the end of the year.
Dear Vicki,
I just moved into a new a new city and started to go to college down here. I am meeting new people every day and this one girl has caught my eye. We are in psychology class together and I have talked to her a couple of times. Just last week, I gathered enough courage to ask her out on a date but she had to reschedule since she had plans this weekend. The week after I asked her again and we agreed to meet up for coffee. The problem is that she didn't show up and now she is ignoring me in class and doesn't want to talk to me anymore. What can I do?
Signed,
Vern
Dear Vern,
What I would do is ignore the bitch and find someone better. I feel that if a person makes an appointment then they should keep it. If you feel that you are not interested in that person then you should tell them. This girl led you on from the beginning, making it seem that she was interested in you, rescheduled, and then stood you up. Ask yourself why you would be interested in a girl like this. Trust me, it would be better to find someone else.
Dear Vicki,
Over the past year I have started talking to more and more girls. Yes I have a lot of females around me but it seems that we just develop into friends instead of building a relationship together. I just want to date someone, so please help me.
Signed,
Petebr
Dear Pete,
What is happening is that you are getting to be known as "The Friend". If you are interested in a girl, you have to make sure you make this known to her right away. Do not try to be her friend. Do not try to be the guy who helps her out all the time. Try to be the guy that takes her on a date and is romantic with her.
The guys that get themselves into this rut never realize what a girl really wants. They want a guy who will sweep them off their feet. They want a guy who is romantic. They want a guy who ravishes them with presents and surprises.
Dear Vicki,
I am in my early twenties and there is this woman at my work that is in her late twenties. We do hang out together and get a long fine. What steps should I take in order for us to stop hanging out as friends and start hanging out as a couple? I want to have sex with this girl and I have never had a real girlfriend. Please help, I do not want to screw this up.
Signed,
Trent
Dear Trent,
Well if you are hanging out together, then you have to tell her someway that you are interested in her and want to be more than friends. I would suggest the best way that you do this is that you take her out on a date and do things that "friends" don't do and "lovers" do. The first thing you must do is break the touch barrier. Touch her hand, touch the small of her back, touch her elbow. Just make sure you touch her. A guy friend of mine breaks the touch barrier when they are about to cross the street. He grabs her hand and then the run across together. Now you must bring her to romantic locations. Enough with the movies and coffee. Bring her to romantic restaurants and out to locations where you share the desert. The last thing that you have to do is talk about romantic situations with her. This way she can associate romance with you. After this she will see you as more romantic. You can then tell her that you are starting to develop feelings for her and see if she feels the same way.
