The Player's Handbook: Flirting

The Flirting Guide
There are many women out there, far too many for me to handle. This is why I am sharing all this information with you. I hope that you have been following all the steps I have put out there, and are well on your way to becoming a player. The last couple of months we talked about attitude, confidence, and style. This month you will need to pull these traits together as we find out where the ladies are hiding.

How to Meet Women
In the Attitude of a Player article two months ago we talked to you about talking to people in general and using this knowledge to start conversations with women. Now what we are going to do is teach you how to flirt with women.

Because of the way that you look and the confidence that you display, women will start noticing you more. Make sure you acknowledge the women that look at you in the mall or in the workplace by giving them a smile. Remember that when it comes to flirting with women, you must initiate all of the interactions. It might start with eye contact, a simple head nod, or even you commenting on something that she is wearing. No matter what it is, you must initiate it.

On The Side: No Fear Flirting
Remember the line: "Fear it. Fuck it. Do it." If you are going to shy away and not flirt with a girl, don't ever whine because you don't have any girls beside you. Take the initiative and talk to the girls. If you don't talk to any girls, how do you expect to get laid?

In order to start flirting, you have to designate your target. Once you find your target you will have to decide how far you want to take it. For the first few flirting interactions, I suggest that you make it a simple hello and don't do anything further. Like I said before, some women will respond positively while others will 100% ignore you. Push aside the negative women and notice the reactions on the positive women. Do this for a week or two and see how things go.

After the first couple of weeks, you can start to be more playful with the women that you meet. This will require a little more interaction and a few more rejections, but keep looking at the positives. If you still need to build some confidence, talk to girls that you don't find that attractive and then move up to prettier girls every week. Don't forget to use the conversation techniques outlined in the earlier articles. Just start conversations with these girls and make them know that you are interested in them using body language and the words in your conversation. Now walk away, knowing that you are in control. If the conversation went well, the girl will be speechless - wondering why you didn't ask for their phone number. Don't worry about these targets and let them be, since they are just training for the sexier and more difficult targets.

On the Side: Three Second Rule
If you see a female showing interest, you have three seconds to move and intiate the conversation. If you wait any longer the possibility of success will decrease and chances are someone else will pick her up.

Now it is time for you to be more aggressive and go for the first move. When you are flirting you always want to make women realize that you are interested in them. Through words, you must develop a rapport with them. Work on commonalities and make her realize that you will be a fun person to date. Make her think that you would be the man of her dreams if you were dating her. Now, try to read her body language to increase your chances with her. If she is not responding positively, then it might be a good idea to hold off until you see her again. But if she is responding positively and you think that she will want to go out, you can move in for the phone number.

On The Side: Using Negatives
Sometimes you want to use a negative remark (not a rude comment) to show a female that you are not interested in her looks. A comment like, "I've never noticed a girl with such big hands. I bet it hard for you to find gloves." Make sure that you do not insult the girl and stay away from breast comments. Make sure you do not use more than two negatives on an attractive girl. Negatives are required for very attractive girls, because someone needs to bring them down to earth! Also, do not try using negatives on females that are below average since their self-esteem is probably low already.

Once they are interested, all you have to do is use this one line: "You seem really nice. I was wondering if you wanted to go out for coffee some time." If she is interested then get her phone number. If she is not interested, then brush her aside and keep playing the game. Remember that you will only meet women if you talk to them. And not all women will be interested in you.

Things to remember when you are flirting:

Things Not to Say or Do:

The Screening Process
Flirting is a way to screen for girls that may be psycho. When you talk to them you can gauge to see if they are compatible with you or not. Take the time to ask her questions about herself to see if you two are compatible. Realize that when talking to females that are a 9.5 on the attractive scale, they could be a 2.0 on the personality scale.

The Game
Always treat flirting as a game. If you start to take flirting seriously, it will affect your success. Remember that when you flirt, not everyone is going to like you. It all comes down to probability; the more girls you talk to, the better a chance you will have to get laid.

Know when to walk away
Sometimes when things are going well, you need to walk away. Walking away allows her to evaluate you, and determine if she likes you. The best time to walk away is when she is most interested in you. By doing this she will be waiting and wanting you to come back. Other times you can just feel that the two of you are not getting along. This is when you need to throw in the towel and work on someone else.

Respect
In order to gain her trust, you will have to build a rapport with her and get her to trust you. The best way to do this is respect her space and boundaries when you first talk to her. If things are going well, then you can move forward. You should be able to see her signals after a while. Most of all, you should never be rude and you should never touch her until it's appropriate.

Flirting does many things, but the biggest thing that it does is builds a rapport between the two of you. It opens up doors and makes her feel more comfortable when she is with you. It allows her to trust you more and therefore increases the chance of getting her phone number.

Your success in flirting will depend on you completing the required exercises. If you don't complete them, there is no use moving forward with the player techniques since. Here is a summary of your weekly exercises. Get out there, find those women, and do it!

Week 1 - Head Nod and Smile
Week 2- Smile and Say Hello
Week 3 - Smile, Say Hello, and Talk