You will constantly hear men complain that their
sex lives are not what they used to be. But have men ever realized that perhaps it is not their partner and that it is themselves that have been causing their own
sex life to dwindle? Keep reading and you will find out more on how to rekindle that
relationship and improve your
sex life.
What men have never realized is the fact that the more romantic you are, the better a chance a girl will be in the mood for
sex. If you think about what you were doing earlier on in the
relationship, you will realize that you were more outgoing, more accommodating, and more romantic towards your lover. Once you become complacent and start to become comfortable with your partner, you stop doing the things that you used to do. You stop opening doors, taking her out for dinner,
or even stop buying her gifts. Have you ever put two and two together and realize that romance and
sex are directly related? By realizing this you will then understand that if you really want to get your partner into the mood inside of the bedroom you must do more outside of the bedroom.
Here is the equation for you:
The Amount of Romance + The Amount of Seduction =
The Amount of Sex
Looking
at the above equation, the more romantic you are, the
more sex you will get. The more that you seduce your partner,
the more sex you will get. If you start to become sloppy
in one of these two areas, the amount of sex will decrease
proportionally.
Well
we are going to look at the amount of romance this month
and take a look at seduction the following month.
So what does it mean to be romantic? What it takes is
for a man to use more chivalry. Well what it takes is
for a man to start acting more distinguished and mature.
What it takes is for a man to think of the woman first.
There are many areas that a man should look at to become
more romantic and in order to help you out, we have outlined
some of them for you.
Chivalry
Being chivalrous is something that men do in the beginning
of a relationship, but somewhere between the beginning
of the relationship and the wedding vows, a male will
loose this trait. Even though some women will never admit
it, they do want a man who will always be chivalrous.
Have you ever thought when was the last time you opened
a door and let her in first, pulled out her chair at a
restaurant, or helped her put on her jacket? Now is the
time to change.
Listen
As a male, you are trained to help out whenever there
is something wrong. But sometimes, what a woman needs
is a male who will listen to them. They need you, their
best friend, to listen to them about what is going on
in their lives. Sometimes it is better to sit back and
listen to what they have to say first. When they are done
you can ask them if they want your input.
Sensitive
After you have learned to listen to her and she wants
your advice, it is time to be sensitive to her feelings.
This means not treating her like one of the guys. With
the guys, you can be blunt and tell your buddy that you
have known since kindergarten that he stinks, he needs
a haircut, or he's getting a little fat around the
waist. Now try being that blunt to your girlfriend. Be
sensitive when you talk to her and know what her needs
and desires are. When discussing sensitive issues, be
tactful and realize that she is your girlfriend and not
your buddy.
Polite
Realize that not all of her friends or even family will
like you. What it takes is for you to be a bigger man.
It is never good the boat when you are around her friends
and family. Even though it may be hard, you will have
to learn to be polite to her friends and family. This
might be a little hard to fake, but she will thank you
for it. Save that for when you are alone. Furthermore,
if you need to fight or argue about something, do it when
you are alone. There is no need to make a scene in front
of people.
Manners and Etiquette
Being polite with friends is one thing, but having manners
and using the correct etiquette in a situation is another.
Sure you may want to pass gas or adjust your package when
you are at a pub drinking beer, but doing this in front
of her parents will not get you far. Manners and etiquette
extend in many different areas including dinners, weddings,
and other social events.
Notice Her and Praise Her
Women will always notice something small when it comes
to you, but men seem to just let the small things go.
Small things like a manicure, a hair cut, or a new dress
always go unnoticed to a guy. Have you ever wondered why
they go out to the day spas and salons? Well they do it
to feel sexy, they do it to get noticed, and they do it
for you. Notice the little things and praise her on the
big things. There is always a reason to celebrate and
take her out for dinner, go to the theatre, or away for
that romantic get-a-way.
Make the Feel Loved and Wanted
All people want to feel loved, especially the woman of
your dreams. By expressing to her how she makes you feel
and showing her that she is appreciated, you will do wonders
for your relationship. It doesn't take that much
to show her either. A hug here, a whisper in her ear before
bedtime, or even a simple "I miss you” will
make her know that you care. Best of all it doesn't
cost you a dime.
Treat her like a Woman
What does it mean to treat her like a woman? Well it is
all of the above traits. They want a man who will listen
and a man who is chivalrous. They want a man who is polite,
sensitive, and also has manners. They want a man who will
praise her and make her feel loved. Put this all together
and you will not only treat her like a woman, but it will
show that you also respect her as a person. And because
of this she will also respect you.
Even though we are coming to the age where women are requesting
equality, women still desire a man to take control of
the situation and be there for their needs and desires.
They want someone to be strong and confident to take care
of them. They want someone that will respect them and
treat her like a woman. They want this knight in shining
armor. Put all the above qualities into one person and
they will have their knight. It is definitely a hard act
to follow.
We all realize that not all men fit this profile. We can
either stay the way we are and be like the rest of the
guys out there or change the way we do things and enjoy
our relationship and our revitalized sex lives. Anyway,
why would you want to be like all the men out there?
