Rimming
The act of rimming is also known as oral play of the anus. Though some people may find this sexual act disgusting, once they experience it, they absolutely love it. This is because the anus is the most neglected erogenous zone on both a male and a female.
Since many people tense up when this spot is initially discovered, people do not get the full benefit of a lover's touch. But through small steps, many couples learn to enjoy this gentle touch.
Step One - Rimming is Not Dirty
The first thing you must get out of your mind is that the anus is dirty.
It has been found that the bacteria found around the anus is not harmful and the area around the anus has been shown to contain less bacteria than the mouth. If this is still a problem for any party all you have to do just shower before anal play.
Second - The First Touch
Once you have overcome the reluctance of anal play, you need to get used to being touch around this area. What you can do is get your partner and get some lube and get your lover to touch around this area. Have your lover run one finger between the cheeks of your buttocks. This may take some time and trust building. When both parties are comfortable with this motion, you can one step further and press the pad of a thumb against the anus.
Step 3 - Penetration
By relaxing you can allow your partner to penetrate and insert a finger in the anus. Make sure you take it slow and use lots of lube. Try to enjoy the new sensations that anal penetration brings.
Step 4 - Rimming
Finally you can take this one step further by allowing your partner to lick your sphincter. Bum lickies, as some may call it, is very easy to get used to once you have performed the previous steps. You can also work on the other areas such as the perineum and a man's testicles before you move your way up to the chocolate highway.
Sex Toys for Men
Though many sex toys are depicted to be primarily for females, male toys do exist. These include cock rings, butt plugs, anal beads, love dolls, vaginas, and masturbators.
Cock Rings
These are leather or rubber rings that fit over an erect
penis. The main reason people purchase these items is the help the man keep his erection for longer. Many people swear by them though others feel that it doesn't keep them erect any longer. Two types of cock rings do exist: ones which are adjustable and ones which cannot be adjusted. If you are going to try one for the first time, go with one that can be adjusted for your
penis.
Butt Plugs
Designed for anal play, butt plugs are inserted into the anus for increase stimulation of the anus, which many males and females do enjoy. There are many men who enjoy this because it stimulates the prostate gland. Butt plugs have many designs and are made with different types of materials and colors. Some even vibrate after inserted.
Anal Beads
Anal beads are beads that are attached to a string and usually have a ring on the end where you can stick your finger through. Using lube, you insert each bead in one at a time and they are removed during sex play. You can take the anal beads out during two different times. Many pull each bead out slowly during orgasm while some people take each bead out during random sexual events such as during a rear entry (doggie style) position or during oral sex.
Love Dolls
These plastic dolls are also known as inflatable dolls, blow up dolls, and sex dolls. There are many types of different dolls, different looks, different feels, and even different skin tones. Some have vibrators for extra enjoyment, while others can be filled with helieum, water, or just plain air. Men who have these dolls enjoy them and have been known to dress them and put wigs on them. Some don't care and just take any hole that is available and enjoys the pleasure. Yes men love inflatable dolls and will spend anywhere from a hundred dollars to a few thousand on one. The best part of a love doll is that you will never get complaints from her. She will do any position that you want, and she never gets headaches.
Vaginas and Masturbators
Vaginas, also known as artificial vaginas, are items that are shaped like vaginas that are made to mimic the real thing. There are many types of vaginas in the market and may differ by material and shape. Some vaginas also come with a vibrating device that may masturbate you at the same time. There are different types of masturbators too. There are ones that simulate blow jobs, ones that provide anal stimulation, and others that just provide stimulation.
Role Playing
Role playing is when both partners take the personality of another person and act as if they were that person. This is a type of game that many couples use to fulfill their fantasies while others use it to add some spice to their sex life. Since many couples do not feel comfortable talking about their fantasies they use role playing as their method of communication.
Some types of role playing that can take place are:
- The doctor and the nurse
- The lonely house wife and the pool attendant
- The bad boss and the secretary
- The slave and the master
- The butler and the maid
- The model and the photographer
- The prostitute and the john
- The cop and the villain
- The lawyer and the client
- The king and the queen
