When you reflect on sexual adventures with your current partner you may notice that the bedroom antics of yesterday have gotten a little boring. In the beginning,
sex is always wild and crazy but over time the fun seems to diminish, becoming routine and stale. Every man deserves sexual fulfillment and you must admit to yourself that you would be happier if you ventured into something new, daring, or even different. The reason why people are stuck into the same old rut is because both parties are scared to introduce something new into the bedroom. If you want the
sex life that you desire then you must take control over your sexual future and be the one who makes
sex interesting.
If you are looking to make a change, then you must always start by doing things slowly. Start off by changing the atmosphere during sex. When you look at atmosphere, you have to envision changing things such as lighting, decor, and the scenario. Look more towards candle light to develop the atmosphere and try to introduce music into the mix. These two things always lead to a night of sensual sex. When your girlfriend embraces these subtle changes, progress to different and interesting things in the upcoming weeks and months.
Next you should gather a list of things that you want to try in bed. Not only should you be looking at new things that you want her to do to you, but be open to trying new things that both of you will enjoy, and even things that she might want to do. Remember that if you want to open yourselve up to new worlds you will have to be willing to experiment with new things.
The first thing that people think about when it comes to something new is sex positions. Not only can different positions can bring different sensations, but they are also a great way to communicate and have fun in the bedroom. In time you will find positions that you will want to incorporate into your sexual repertoire. You will also notice that many positions that you try are more of a novelty than for sexual satisfaction. Regardless, sex positions are a great way to introduce something new and different into your sexual relationship without bringing up anything bizarre from the start.
Another thing that you can alter is the location where you have sex. Locations such as a hotel room or bed and breakfast can be a nice change of pace, but quickie sex at a wedding, a friends place, or even sex at a movie theatre can be even more invigorating.
Although the aforementioned ideas are great ways to kick start your sex life, you may want to try to venture into things that are not mainstream. The secret to sexual experimentation is putting your partner's sexual needs in front of yours. By fulfilling your partner's needs ahead of yours, your partner will feel like she is the one benefiting from your creative ideas. When your partner finds something she likes through experimentation, not only will she start trusting you with new ideas, she will look into new things to try for herself.
Fantasies are a great way to explore new ideas. Before you discuss your fantasies, be sure that the two of you have become comfortable discussing sex with each other. Once you feel that both of you are willing to share your desires, you can look into talking about "safe" fantasies. Safe fantasies are fantasies where neither of you will get offended by what the other person is saying. Before you start talking about fantasies, discuss items that may offend either party. If you know that your partner may be offended by threesomes then that fantasy should not be discussed. Some fantasies my involve you dressing up as a football player and her dressing up as a cheerleader, having sex under the moonlight, or a seductive night where you dominate her.
While some people are disgusted by porn, others are intrigued by it. If your partner is one of those who are repulsed by adult movies, you can try starting her off by renting some risque movies such as Henry and June or 9 1/2 weeks. If she is responsive to these you can then move into movies that are classified as soft porn. Soft porn movies can be safe because they have a basic storyline, they rarely show genitals, and it is more appealing to the opposite sex. From here you can go slowly into movies that show and do more. Not only can adult movies spice up your sex life, but it can also bring in new ideas, new positions, and new techniques when it comes to sex.
After test driving her with some porn you can try moving into using sex toys. For most men, the idea of using sex toys in the bedroom scares them. Some men even believe that sex toys are out to replace them. What you should know is that sex toys are not out to replace you or your penis. Sex toys are out there to enhance sex and bring in different sensations for the two of you. If you want to start off slow, try using items such as penis sleeves or a basic vibrator. Once both of you are comfortable with these, you can start experimenting with more extreme sex toys such as the Jack Rabbit, anal beads, and butt plugs. For those who can't afford sex toys you can try using household items. Many people like to insert things other than the penis into the vagina.
As frank and Amy say: "My wife and have used everything from oven mitts to a plunger. All you have to do is be creative and anything's possible!"
Finally, if you are looking for something more extreme, then BDSM is the answer. Though it is not something for the light hearted, many people find sexual fulfillment when it comes to BDSM-it is the ultimate sexuality game that thrives on power and creativity. BDSM introduces a certain mindset, new games and scenarios, and even some role-playing.
Regardless of what you want to do when it comes to creativity, consent from both parties is a must. Furthermore you should always show appreciation, admire your partner, and have positive outlook when it comes to bringing up new ideas. The worst thing you can do is ridicule your partner for one of her fantasies or something she wants to experiment with. Not only will this close the lines of communication, but it will destroy the trust factor between the two of you.
