And if we're talking about each and every person around, they all seem to stay in your way. If you're freshly in love, that is. Picture this: you discover the girl of your craziest dreams and you just want to be with her. But is this possible? Nope! Everybody wants a piece of her, of you, of your heavenly
relationship...
So: you have this new girl and you make everything in your power not to tempt fate. Things are going really swell, until you make the imprudence to introduce her to your best girl friend. This one gives you her verdict: she's not a patch your last lover and you shouldn't have finished
with her. Then your lover girl confesses her ex called. You immediately suspect he's trying to get her back. Worries never end! After enduring the ritual grilling that is dinner with your parents, your mum wonders why your woman is dressed so indecent, and your dad invites her to go fishing together next Sunday. And when your brattish little sister starts telling him, as she did with all your other girls, embarrassing stories from your adolescence, you begin to wonder whose relationship this actually is. It's inevitable that the people around you mess with your relationship, but you never know to what extent. And, you don't want to know. You just need them to stop interfering.
Get rid of them:
Your Mum
Why she infiltrates
She has some expectations for you (she's never pleased with the girls you meet) and you're driven mad by her disapprovals.
How to get rid of her: Especially if she's a single woman now (she and your father are divorced), it will be a difficult task for you. She will try to find defects in your girl, to make you change your mind and stay by her. The question is if you are capable of powerful resistance. These mothers usually succeed in ruining their "kids'" relationship. Just go on with your business and let her talk.
Your Dad
Why he infiltrates
If he is a traditional guy, mini skirts and other fashion icons will leave him under the impression your girlfriend is not "an honest" woman. He doesn't want you to make the mistakes he did when he was your age.
How to get rid of him: Don't let your girlfriend dress too sexy when you visit your parents or, don't visit them anymore (at least until they are used to the idea). Don't let any of your parents dominate your way of thinking.
Your Ex
Why she infiltrates
Well, she doesn't personally. It's you who, without even thinking about it, are talking about your ex all the time. You start repeating the patterns of previous relationships or judge your new relationship against the speed former relationships have progressed.
How to get rid of her: Well, you have to draw a line under the past and concentrate on the new relationship. Even if your past relationships may still be interesting to you, you don't want to keep going on about them. It could be that you are not over the EX, and often, particularly if you've gone straight into another relationship, you're not. Once you've got a history of relationships, you may find you alternate between two types. You're over with the first type and engage yourself in a love affair with type two. Then you go back to type one. Be careful and decide what you really want.
Her EX
Why he infiltrates
You wonder how he was, what she felt for him and what she feels for him right now. You suspect that she doesn't care for you as much as she used to care for her ex. Every time she finds an excuse not to go out with you, you are convinced they are back together.
How to get rid of him
You have never seen her Ex (probably), but you can't help comparing yourself to him. This custom goes back to your childhood when you worried that your mum loved your brothers or sisters more than she loved you. When it comes to the ex-boyfriend, you better tell her how you feel, although, no matter what she will tell you (that she hates him, doesn't want to see him anymore), you're unlikely to believe them. Maybe you should remember she chose to be with you. If he calls her all the time, take it as a bonus point for her: if someone else wants her, she must be a good catch.
Your best friend
Why he infiltrates
He's disgusted with the fact you never go out "with the boys" anymore. How can you betray him for a girl? This is what he's thinking. If he constantly runs your girlfriend down, it's because he's worried you'll end by being one of those women's slave.
How to get rid of him
If he has got a fair point (you ditched your mates for your girl), calm him down! Invite your men for a guy's night out like the old times (I'm sure she won't mind). Establish a day a week to go out with your mates exclusively. It's important to demonstrate that your girlfriend doesn't have a bad influence on you. Maybe you invite your mates and their girlfriends to spend a weekend with you two at the mountains (just to strengthen friendship)...
Your big brother
Why he infiltrates
He is, as usual, over-protective. He imagines his life experiences in the romantic domain enable him to try to make order in your love life. It is possible he fancies himself your girl, but not consciously.
How to get rid of him
Tell him you're flattered he's concerned about you, but you're a grown up now, than you very much. Another assuring news for him would be that you do not intend to get married in the near future (he'll suppose you're just having fun, like a guy should, and will let you be).
Your little sister
Why she infiltrates
She likes your new girl very much (and that's a bigger problem than if she didn't). She's sprinting to pick up the phone every times it rings and if it's your girl, she engages in long chat. Your sister is in desperate need of a girl friend, bigger than her, to tell her all about boys and stuff like this. She even dresses like her (out of admiration, of course) and would very much like to come with you two anywhere you go.
How to get rid of her
You love your little sister, but sometimes she makes you scream. I'm afraid you don't have too many possibilities. Tell her to stop, but don't hope for immediate reason and understanding. Anyway, prevent your girlfriend that your sister is in love with her (too) and that she will piss her off with stories and questions. And, if you don't want any embarrassing stories to reach your girl's ears from your little cute sister's mouth first, be yourself the one who confesses. As a supplementary measure, inspect the family photo album and take the embarrassing photos (with your childhood nudes) out, unless you want to give her reasons to laugh hysterically.
